We can so easily half engage with the people we love. We listen to the same anecdotes over and over and it is easy to become bored and impatient. But we also know that kind attention at these times is a gift and a genuine act of love.Russ Harris suggests mindfully engaging with our loved ones. This includes, observing with openness and curiosity, as if you are seeing it for the first time:
- Your loved ones expression. See if you can trace what they are expressing with their face. Watch the movement of their lips, the lines and creases that come and go as their expression changes.
- Their body language. How do they move their arms, legs, hands, feet, body? How do they hold their body as they talk?
- The rhythm and sound of their voice. The words they use. The subtle changes in tempo and tone.
Your mind may distract you with it's stories and judgements - mindfully bring your attention back to this moment now, with this person. This person you love.
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