Love as an Action

''A more helpful way to think about love...think of love as an action.  The feeling of love comes and goes on a whim, you can't control it.  But the action of love is something you can do regardless of how you are feeling.''
When you are annoyed with your partner ''reconnect with your values: remember the sort of partner you want to be and the sort of relationship you want to build. And then you need to take action.'' pg 13